After looking at everything in my account it does appear AB does have a legitimate case. It is still very coincidental, but after looking at things more closely they technically could have had nothing to do with it. I still believe they did but because it is possible they didn't I have to give up. Thing is I thought my money was withdrawn. But after looking at my account my funds were SPENT. I guess you can spend frozen funds (my funds were transferred by spending to the user Carls Jr.). Then the $2000 I had in escrow was canceled and that customer was tricked to send it to a wallet directly. The timing of all this is still very suspicious to me but it is possible AB did not have to do it since they did not need to withdraw frozen funds, but instead spent them which I guess you can do with frozen funds. Anyways I am completely dejected and bummed out at losing lots of money I needed. I'm going to bed. Mods here please delete all my posts if you want (if not I will fix them later).
EDIT: Wait a second, that still doesn't explain how my warning messages to my customer were being deleted. THAT just doesn't make sense. I need to think about this more before I decide to stop terrorizing the internet.
At this point the best thing you can do is shut down your AlphaBay store and move on to other markets. There's a demand for your product and you'll have no trouble selling it elsewhere. We have had good experiences on Oasis: for .1 btc you can set up a multisig-only shop on Outlaw and sell on a place where this can't happen again.
We're keeping GWL AlphaBay in vacation mode until such time as they sort out their various issues. Right now their reputation is seriously tainted. Yes, many of the allegations raised against AB appear to be FUD and trolling. But right now this subreddit has more complaints leveled against AlphaBay than against every other marketplace combined. If you lie down with pigs, you get mud all over your fabulous sparkly leisure suit jacket. And if you see great big clouds of smoke, chances are something is burning somewhere.
Sorry about your losses, OP. Let's hope your story serves as a cautionary tale and others don't fall into the same pit.