Lost my best friend in Paris

I don't really know what to do or where to go. I don't have many friends in the real world. I suppose I'm your typical DNM stereotype. I don't leave my apartment much and simply order drugs and appreciate the community here, even though I rarely actually interact with anyone. I was watching the France/Germany friendly and heard the explosion. Didn't think anything of it at first. My best friend is someone I met in university. He was at Bataclan. We both loved music and drugs. He was a wonderful human being. This is beyond awful and I don't want to live anymore knowing he's gone.

I love you all.


Comments


[181 Points] Finga_lickin:

I know it seems hard now but please stay postive. There is a world full of people out there who, believe it or not, love you very much and want to help you get through this tough time.

Being open and talking about it with people as you have done here is the healthiest way to cope with problems like this. Please do not bottle these feelings inside and let them fester. Also if possible avoid turning to drugs or alcohol to cope with the pain, it may help in the short term but is not a sustainable practice.

The best thing you can do for your friend now is to live your life to the fullest, take every oppourtinty presented, and reach all your goals. Your friend would not want to see you suffer while greeving for him. Carry on his memory, tell stories about him, reminise, tell storys about him to your kids one day.

We only truly die when people stop talking about us. As long as we live on in the memories of others we are still alive and loved.

Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problem, please do not do anything drastic.

We all love you <3.


[96 Points] alphabaysupport:

You must have revenge on behalf of your friend.

And the only revenge is a life well lived, to honor he who was denied that opportunity.


[32 Points] luckofficial:

Fuck man.. Stay strong and live to honor your friend. And take it easy with drugs while being so down


[13 Points] samwhiskey:

That's awful. My heart goes out to you. Stay strong though and don't give up. I'm sure your friend would want you to carry on.


[13 Points] HulkVsMeth:

I'm truely sorry brothaman, I lost my best friend to a heroin over dose last year and I think about him everyday. It really sucks but live on for your friend cause that's all you really can do


[10 Points] atlanta41:

My condolences to you. Vive la France


[7 Points] rafajafar:

I dont do drugs, I dont buy drugs, and I dont sell drugs.... but I lurk here because this is all really super interesting to me. I don't post in this sub because, well, I have nothing to say... I just am curious and read. Not only that but I don't want people to think I participate in any illegal activities and my username can be traced to my real name.

That said, this is my first and only comment here in DNM. This story is really sad, and I'm sorry you lost your best friend this way, man. I have nothing to say other than life is pain, but it's far better than the alternative.


[7 Points] PrinceUmbongo:

Fuck man. This shouldn't have happened. It's a fucking cliche, but kill yourself and they win. Thats one more for the body count. In the ISIS statement they said they hit the concert because it was a place of "prostitution and vice". Go fuck a hooker and snort some lines of coke off her tits man and fucking enjoy it like they never have and never will and relish it. spit in their fucking faces man.


[4 Points] traponthereal:

So sorry for your loss man. Stay strong.


[4 Points] Calypso420:

Stay strong brother, so sorry for your loss.


[6 Points] edmund95:

My sympathy goes out to you and your friends family. Thank you for sharing. "The world is already full of darkness, do not add to it. Instead be a light."


[4 Points] bodevelho:

no matter what you might feel or think right now, you are not alone man!


[4 Points] zipzipzipzip:

I am so sorry to hear that dude. Take care, our thoughts are with you


[2 Points] bigbawlzxm:

So sorry to hear that man.


[1 Points] NoMoreSleepyDreaming:

Please try to seek help ASAP; you need to talk to a therapist and begin to process what is going on. Contact your family if possible, but speak to someone close to you about how you are feeling for sure. I know it feels natural to turn to more drugs right now, but this is the kind of thing where you really need some support. I am so sorry for your loss, and urge you to take care of yourself.


[3 Points] _beast__:

Everyone here is offering condolences and whatnot but that doesn't fucking help. Trust me on this, go out and spend time with people. Be around others. That is the key to getting through it.


[3 Points] TheRealSwiss:

Hi, to show you our solidarity we offer you and all the people from

Paris a free unit of one of our products we have in stock.

THIS IS NOT IN ANYWAY ADVERTISEMENT OR A PUBLICITY STUNT!

WE JUST WANT TO DO SOMETHING FOR THE PEOPLE OF PARIS!


[2 Points] justaniceyoungman:

I'm sorry for your loss. We are all here for you.


[2 Points] MitalikaSucks:

Sorry for your loss man


[2 Points] latin_throw:

"Cowards die many times before their deaths, The valiant never taste of death but once."

Keeping you in my thoughts stranger.


[2 Points] LSD-hippie:

Please hold on my friend, you are NOT alone, there will ALWAYS be people out the to talk with, and thanks for reaching out, it sound like a cry for help? Please keep the head high, i know it's not easy, but you can always try!

Much love from here! We have to stand together as a race, we are all family! <3


[2 Points] The_fire_bird:

The only thing I can say to you is that he can't suffer any more. I know that doesn't help you much unfortunately, because his life should never have been taken away in the first place. When you're quite a social recluse it feels so much harder when someone you talk to (even if only online), suddenly won't be there any more.

Think about it: 100 friends, 1 dead, lost 1% of your circle.

Only a couple of friends (1, 2, maybe 3) anywhere upwards of 33% of people you enjoyed sharing memories with, gone. It's horrible, my heart goes out to you...


[2 Points] fryguy334:

Don't buy the wrong drugs like heroin or anything to fuck your life up brother we here for you


[2 Points] Hamilton_Morris_:

I love you too man. Hang in there, this world is fucked but there are more high times in store.


[1 Points] None:

Sorry to hear dude. I know your friend had you in his thoughts man. His legacy lives on from those he touched including you.


[1 Points] None:

So sorry man. If its any help, PM me and I will send you some bitcoins to buy drugs.


[1 Points] BPSR:

RIP


[1 Points] SpecialAgentDildo:

I'm truly sorry to hear that I saw the news story earlier and it's just awful. You need to live for your friend and trust they are in a better place. Definetley get some grief counceling before you turn to any darker aolutions. Good luck and you have people that care here.

Peace


[1 Points] 987sg38h4os9fu0aq2:

My thoughts are with you.


[1 Points] earthmoonsun:

Sorry for your loss. Have you originally planned to go to Bataclan, too?


[1 Points] Throwaw1776:

My prayers were out for the people involved and their families last night when I saw it on the news, and they're going out for you now. I can't imagine what kind of pain you must be in now. You can honor your friend by just sharing stories of the times you had in school and the kind of person he was. It disgusts me that this kind of thing happens, and that people so downright evil can exist. You've got friends here. Share anything you'd like.


[1 Points] JburnaDNM:

I feel you bruh. I have no friends either and when you loose one of your only friends shit sucks. I lost my only friend a month or two ago due to him murdering someone but he says was self defense. Nothing takes that god awful feeling away except time. May he rest in peace and fuck islam. Shit makes me want to go back in the military instead of sitting on the sidelines.


[1 Points] HofmannsHeir:

Listen to what everyone has already said. I can't imagine what it feels like. You've always got a friendly stranger in me to shoot the shit with and talk about anything, if you'd like to.

And remember...we love you too.


[1 Points] XtremeGuy5:

Don't give up, he would want you to keep going.


[1 Points] whiskey-monk:

PM me if you want to talk. I lost several friends over the years so I know what that's like. I also lost my father to a senseless murder so I understand the rage and misery you're possibly experiencing. Feel free to vent.


[1 Points] None:

My prayers go out to everyone involved in this terrible event an to op things will get better in time I'm deeply sorry for the loss


[1 Points] AsUcanseebythisgraph:

:(

thank you for posting this. its given me new perspective on more than you'd expect.


[1 Points] boogerboy23:

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What is this?


[1 Points] aboutthednm:

God damn what a bummer.

Maybe stuff like this should make us reconsider the war on drugs and the resources wasted, that could have gone towards preventing such despicable acts of terror.


[1 Points] Axaq:

Hope you are doing well, drop me a message if you're feeling up to it, always happy to have an open conversation.


[1 Points] young_k:

My condolences to you and the rest of the victims and their families. Really sad.


[1 Points] dankrussian:

Sorry to hear that...my condolences.

RIP to your friend.


[1 Points] None:

Sorry for your loss. As others have said please seek human contact it really does help


[1 Points] oxdessyxo:

I'm really sorry for your loss, i cannot imagine how hard it must be. Please stay strong, your best friend would want you to continue on. It's going to be hard, very hard, but there are many many people who love you and who will help you get through this. <3


[1 Points] Battyhole:

God bless you and your mate.

I'm not religious, but go to sacred heart when sad.

It's a really amazing place my friend.

His death/your life is just too big to comprehend 😘


[1 Points] walt81:

My condolences but your friend is in better place now just remember joyful times you two had together.


[1 Points] adaptations_:

Stay strong, OP.

This will be a terrible time for you, but you can't let these savages break your spirit.


[1 Points] None:

Don't let the bastards grind you down. Keep your head up!


[1 Points] evil_olive23:

I'm so sorry for your loss. The reality of the situation had me in tears and I didn't even know anyone there.


[1 Points] Pync:

I lost one of my best friends nearly two months ago. I'm still not the same. I won't lie and tell you shit's going to magically get easier, but fuck man, you'll learn to cope. And then you'll learn to live again, in between the days where you merely cope.

I'm still just coping, but somewhere down the line it'll get better. Live for him.


[1 Points] LedLevee:

I'm really sorry for your loss. I know it won't do you much good now, but I'm sending good vibes your way anyway.

If you are ever in the need of blowing off some steam, feel free to send me a message. I'd love to hear what your friend was like.

Just promise me you'll live your life twice as much, once for him.


[1 Points] fungi_breaux:

Condolences man, try to stay positive!


[1 Points] Lv16:

I lost a few people I knew in the North tower. The hurt never goes away, not when they are so viciously taken from us. But carry on, live for them. Don't let those assholes steal your life as well. I can't claim to know exactly how you feel, but I believe I might have an idea. Much <3


[1 Points] ThisIsNotMarc:

What everyone else has said dude, stay alive and gimme a high five!


[1 Points] Remtrex:

May all my love be with you


[1 Points] alexanderdelarge01:

Please hold on to the good thoughts of your friend and get through this friend, my heart is with you.

I am so sorry for your loss and I know you feel a pain I can barely imagine but if you are feeling so poorly that you might act on the thoughts of not going on with life please check out /r/suicidewatch and talk it out.


[1 Points] Canadianpornstar:

i feel for you


[1 Points] None:

Sorry for your loss.


[1 Points] MyNameIsChairNow:

<3


[1 Points] quantikroidthrowaway:

OP im so sorry to hear about your loss man, just know we are all here for you, feel free to shoot me a PM anytime if you wanna get some shit off your chest. god bless you and stay safe


[1 Points] izza123:

They are always in the last place you look.


[1 Points] kiffkeith:

Stay strong. You are not alone.


[1 Points] DMVSavant:

whatever you do

don't let yourself

and your countrymen

be lead into a post-911

style invasion and occupation

of syria

the wolves are already

salivating


[1 Points] BlackDave0490:

Stay up bro, even though it seems you're alone were all here sharing the same joys and sorrows. I know what it feels like to be alone, but we're here. Sorry for your loss


[1 Points] None:

I'm sorry man. I know how it feels to lose a brother. I have to agree with /u/Alphabaysupport, make your revenge by living your life long and strong by dedicating each moment to your friend that was denied one.

Peace and love :)


[1 Points] bird-biotic:

I'm so sorry you lost your best friend. You could message me anytime if you just want to talk. Sometimes if you are a shy person (like me) you can forget there are a lot of people who would be part of your support network and want to be friends you know. My account is new but I've been lurking/park of the community for about 3 years. :)


[1 Points] Xf3k:

I've lost my best friend before. It's devastating to those of us that aim for quality rather than quantity of friends. People tell me it gets easier. I don't know because I use drugs to distract me from the grief.

I'll listen to music and do drugs with you any time.

Sorry for your loss.


[1 Points] None:

What are these terrorizing people thinking?!? Who kills innocent people. They want to make a statement about France's involvement in the US war again ISIL, so they murder a bunch of innocent, harmless people. What cowards. What fucking cowards.

These are the souls they hurt, good people like u/id0exi5t . People who have nothing to do with the war. Absolutely nothing.

If they want to say something about the war, make a statement- confront the person or government and tell them directly.

What kind of deranged person or group thinks they will get anywhere by killing innocent poelpe.

If you have a problem with someone speak with them directly, dont be a pussy about it.

We are not afraid.


[1 Points] ronnnumber:

I lost someone on 9/11. It takes a long time, and even then you don't really get over it, I'm sorry this has happened to your friend.


[1 Points] rogueXleader:

Very sorry to hear you lost your friend, especially under such unfortunate and cruel circumstances. I can relate to an extent, as during college I met this beautiful, amazing girl in class and had just started talking and hanging out with her when she was brutally murdered. I found out on the news, initially angry thinking she'd blown me off by not showing up to meet me to study. Even ended up watching one of those hour-long crime specials on the whole case several years after and it was just so surreal. It's not fair when the world takes away a beautiful person, but it does get better. The pain never completely goes away, but you learn to live your life to the fullest for all the things that person wasn't able to. This girl was beginning to teach me piano, so as a release I signed up for piano classes and learned with the music majors, which was incredibly difficult. Don't ever give up. Your friend wouldn't want the world to lose you as well over the grief of his loss. Stay strong bro. Sending love your way


[1 Points] fuckyeahpeace:

the only thing he would want from you is to grab life by the fucking balls and live it cunt


[1 Points] None:

He hasn't posted since. He killed himself.


[-6 Points] Early_C:

You and your story are bullshit. Very obvious ploy for attention. While I dont give two shits about the french, it's shitty you would use this opportunity to try to garner attention for yourself.

As a sidenote, if my best friend (as you say) died and had a funeral, I would move time and space to be there. Douche.


[-5 Points] testingattentionplz:

Rule 6. No unrelated content


[-6 Points] lordredvampire:

I am enraged and upset as well! US is responsible for this mess since they funded and started the whole ISIS charade. Fuck the Cabal (Illuminati and Freemasons)! They're gonna pay! There will be a 2nd Nuremberg trial for those sick murderous fucks.


[-8 Points] bign1gwawa:

Hundreds of people in Bataclan with smartphones and not a single video of anything actually happening so far? Obvious crisis actors in the "footage" that has come out so far? Are the big government shills on this site even trying anymore? This sub is the last place I expected to see such obvious appeal to emotion propaganda.

How's that gun control working, France?